Thursday, January 08, 2009

"Gullible" Is Not In The Wikipedia

Seriously, it's not.

I realized today that I'm a very gullible person. Which is shocking, because I always perceived myself as more of the sceptical type. Monday I got a text message from an acquaintance asking if I would like to go out for lunch this week. I said yes and asked which day. She replied, "Not Wednesday. My Mom is taking me out to lunch for my birthday." We agreed on Thursday instead. Thursday (today) rolled around. I got another text from her at 8. "Are we still on for lunch?" "Yup. Where at?"

"Let me check how much money I have," she answered. I thought that was a little odd, considering she had known that we were going to have lunch since Monday and that SHE had been the one to suggest it in the first place. Shouldn't she have set some money aside for it? I waited and waited for a response. Finally, she text back. "I'm broke." It was then that it dawned on me. I'd been duped. This "friend", who I would have otherwise not contacted, had gone out of her way to let me know it was her birthday.

Then, after planning a lunch date for the day after, conveniently ran out of money. With so little notice, she would have guessed that I wouldn't have packed a lunch. Geez. I sound like Vizzini. "But you must have known I was not a great fool, you would have counted on it, so I can clearly not choose the wine in front of me." In the end I caved and offered to pay. "Great! It can be my b-day present." She replied without a moment's hesitation. "How about Sonny's?" I'd been thinking more along the lines of Wendy's, but whatever. I figured it was my punishment for being so damn gullible.

So, what traits of yours have been unceremoniously revealed to you?



At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Knight said...

You are so nice. If I realized someone had done that to me on purpose I would say "Oh, well, next time then." and went to Wendy's by myself. Happy Birthday indeed.

Obviously you are not very gullible because you caught on. Perceptive you are.

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Jay said...

It has been proven to me, over and over again, that I'm entirely too nice of a person. I keep getting taken advantage of all the time. But, what the hell.

At 08 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is so shady!

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger J said...

I would have come up with a great plan, like, right after lunch, but before the check came, hit her with the "Excuse me, but I left my wallet in the car. Be right back." line, then burned rubber once I was out the door, yelling "Happy Birthday, baby!" as I roared down the street.

Of course, I'd come up with that plan about an hour after I'd already paid for lunch and was sitting back at my desk at work. And with full knowledge that I'd never actually pull something like that.

I've seriously got to work on my timing, as well as my evil plans.

At 08 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

But...Wednesday was *my* birthday! Shouldn't you have taken me out to lunch instead?
Heck, I might have taken YOU out to lunch for my birthday, just for the pleasure of having lunch with Tink.

Which just goes to show you:
You can pick your friends,
You can pick your nose,
But you can't pick your friend's nose. Unless you wrestle him to the floor first.

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Reb said...

That is just wrong on so many levels. I would have told her "I guess we are in the same boat then, catch ya next time". Or would have told her I can't afford Sonny's we are going to Wendy's.

You are just too nice for your own good. But don't change, we like you nice.

At 08 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello! McFly!

Just kidding, I would have responded just like you did, and then blogged about it with smoke blowing from my ears, just like you did!

Time and again, I have it unceremoniously revealed to me that I am the city's free therapist. I don't hear from certain "friends" until they call me to catch up - which ends up being them venting about their problems or their life, and then having to get off the phone once I listen, advise, cheerlead, or whatever they need at the time. I don't realize it until I'm hanging up the receiver, and I'm all "DOH! Fell for it AGAIN!" I'm finally starting to screen my calls.

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Gramps said...

1) That I'm an ass.

2) That I'm selfish.

3) By the way, can we go have lunch next week?

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Gin said...

You may be gullible but you are very sweet to do that. It's your friend who has the problem, not you.

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Mary said...

(((hugs))) you are a great person, and you knew--I would have said sucks to be you! Wanna drink a water while I eat my jr bacon cheez burger?

the above would reveal that I'm a real live biotch.

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger fiwa said...

Wow, that is low. I would not even be able to dream a scheme like that up! I did have a "friend" who would agree to go out to dinner with a group of us, and then when the check would come she would whisper to me "Oh my god! I don't have that much money! What do I do?" I probably paid for a few hundred dollars worth of meals for her over the years. We are no longer close.

I finally kicked mine to the curb, but it took me 8 years. I hope you're smarter than I am.

love you sweet girl -

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Gary's third pottery blog said...

Hey Tink, wanna go to lunch tomorrow?????

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Mouse said...

Inconceivable! Wait.. I don't think that means what you think it means...

hee hee. Anybody want a peanut?

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Chris said...

My unceremoniously revealed traits tend to be more of the snappish sort than the very sweet sort...

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger Michael Knight Rambo said...

I've seen this before.
I'll bet she has a sick compulsion.
She's probably got several groups of aquaintances and keeps a rotation of "birthdays" and other special events so that she can scheme up different ways every week to get a free lunch/ dinner, etc.
I imagine that she probably had several hundred dollars in her purse that was almost within your sight just to increase the twisted thrill she got from taking your money.
And she probably purged herself after too, just to rub it in.
I hate this woman, but she probably needs help.
But hey, wish her a happy belated from me, wouldya? ;)

At 08 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very low indeed. I suppose you'll need to spend the next two years building up a tolerance to Iocaine mean, to your acquaintance.

I used to be a bit of a doormat but it was unceremoniously revealed to me recently that I've FINALLY "grown a pair".

My mom and my sis tried to get me to take pictures of a dying neighbour of theirs as mementos for her kids. While I like the idea of giving my time as a photographer to an organization such as Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, I have not had bereavement training and haven't a clue how to handle a family who's grieving. Sensitivity training is a requirement for bereavement photographers! I listened to my sis's sales pitch, looked thoughtful for a moment, and then said, "I'm sorry but the answer is no. I'm not comfortable with that." Though I have empathy for the woman and her family, I felt really good about my decision. It would be totally inappropriate for me to insert myself into that family situation without being asked directly by them.

My mom and sis took my answer but they sure weren't happy about it judging by their clipped tones of voice.

At 08 January, 2009, Blogger moo said...

wow, some people are so unbelievable!! I would've canceled on her "Well, I guess we'll have to reschedule then!" and gone to Wendy's by myself.

Also ... she is NOT your friend. Friends don't treat each other like that. That is shady and WRONG.

At 09 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Some people will do whatever they can to get a free ride! wtf? People like that SUCK! It took me most of my 45 years on this planet of ours to grow a pair and start standing up for myself. I guess its a part of getting old, kinda like that old mutt of a dog that finally stops taking shit from the rest of the pack... lol The one thing thats good is when we finally see them for who they are, we can kick 'em to the curb, and say SEE YA!

You deserve way better than that!

You're a fantastic person, Tink!
Want to go to lunch? :)

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger LL said...

"You are so nice. If I realized someone had done that to me on purpose I would say "Oh, well, next time then." and went to Wendy's by myself. Happy Birthday indeed.

Obviously you are not very gullible because you caught on. Perceptive you are."

My thoughts exactly. Only I wouldn't have channeled Yoda like Knight did...

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger the planet of janet said...

pretty sneaky -- and obviously successful -- way of going about that ...

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Peggy said...

It is a shame that a generous and kind person such as yourself gets taken advantage taken out of her. I know you won't let THIS particular person do it again.

She sounds needy and attention seeking in this particular episode.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger g-man said...

Lunch in April?

You are nice. But I'm guessing the next time she calls you are going to be "busy".

Maybe she will offer to take you out on your birthday?

So, what traits of yours have been unceremoniously revealed to you?

Oh, Tink, I am married, my wife unceremoniously points out EVERYTHING I do. (just like I'm sure yo do to Hoop) ;)

BUNUS: My word verification is liker

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Karen said...

That was the plan all along. You were supposed to pay for lunch for her birthday. LOL.

I am not so much gullible as I am verbose. I get myself in trouble all the time for saying things I shouldn't be saying. I can keep a secret if I have to, but too often I am just talking and things fly out of my mouth.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger M said...

Yep, raising my hand with the too nice and gullible crowd.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Knight said...

LL called me out on my Yoda channeling! Is that an odd trait?

At 09 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is that person really a friend? Have they done something like this before? You know the kind that always puts themselves before others.

If this has happened before, find a new friend. If this is the first time, then overlook it and move on. But be leary.

Enuf said.

At 09 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would have to say that the period of revelation has been going on more some months now, but the trait, as I assume you would agree, would be that I am a shallow asshole. With just a touch of needless drama thrown in.

At 09 January, 2009, Anonymous Anonymous said...

"for" some months, not "more.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger mamatulip said...

You're also very nice.

I can be very naive. I learned that the hard way a while back.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Christine said...

I am a sucka for a sob story. This past Christmas I must have handed out five hundred dollars worth of free food, new clothing, toys etc from people whining on CL about their hardships over their children. I did not receive one thank you. NOT ONE.

Worse, I am sure I would do it all again.

However, I can help Michail Knight Rambo with what he is...a cynic. I wish I had more of that.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Jen said...


Vizzini: No more rhyming now, I mean it.
Fezzik: Anybody want a peanut?

Love that movie! Don't love that a so-called friend duped you into a free lunch. That's wrong. I wouldn't have gone, but I'm getting cantankerous in my old age.

I've been learning to say "no" and not be too nice. I don't always feel good about being this way, but it's better than letting my "friends" walk all over me like their front door mat. . . .

Hope your lunch was good.

BTW: my word verification is "cringed" (which is what I did when I read what your friend did to you).

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Farmer*swife a/k/a Glass_Half_Full said...

I remember once it was my birthday and all my Gal pals decided we should all go to lunch for my birthday. It was a Saturday so no one was working, etc.

At the end of the lunch, everyone grabbed their ticket and no one offered to pitch in for mine. I had been left with the idea that they were taking me to lunch -- not meeting me for lunch.

Not that there was obligation. And, a couple of them are really dear friends. I just think it slipped everyone's mind.

Still -- I felt a little shafted. Poor me, pitty party.

You should have told her, "Well, we can always reschedule. When do you get paid!" LOL!!!

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger LL said...

"LL called me out on my Yoda channeling! Is that an odd trait?"

An odd trait that is. Many movies you have watched.

At 09 January, 2009, Blogger Woman in a Window said...

A friend of mine yelled at me and called me fickle. I MOST CERTAINLY AM NOT FICKLE, I gritted back. After looking it up I discovered that she was right.


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