Thursday, July 10, 2008

It's Just Not Fair

Nash (Chris), Hoop's brother, died in a fatal car crash yesterday evening on the way home from our house. He was only 24. To say that we'll miss him is such a sad understatement. Chris was a really remarkable guy. He was funny and sweet, not a bad bone in his body. He was a single parent of a four year old little boy. He was Hoop's best friend. Chris had an interview with the sheriff's' department on a Monday, a life long dream almost to fruition. He was almost there. We were all so proud of him.

It's just not fair...

I don't know when I'll be back on. But know that you're in my thoughts and please keep Hoop's family in yours.


Much Love,
Tink

121 Comments:

At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Newt said...

Oh sweetheart, my love to you and yours.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger HalfAsstic.com said...

Oh, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you, really.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger OneDaisy said...

Tink, I am so very sorry Honey. Please know that all of you are in my prayers during this very difficult time.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Knot said...

I'm so sorry.

Jef

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger moo said...

Oh, my god. I am so sorry for you guys. You are in my thoughts. We'll be here when you get back.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Knight said...

I'm so sorry Tink. You will be in my thoughts. I'm so glad you and Hoop have each other at a time like this.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger furiousBall said...

oh man, so sorry Tink and Hoop. Loss is tough no matter what, but such a young age. Ow.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Betty said...

I was so sorry to hear abut Hoop's brother. We'll all be thinking about you. Take the time you need and come back when you can.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger J said...

God, I am so sorry, Tink. Betty's right; we'll all be thinking about you.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Jay said...

Tink I am so sorry. This is just terrible. I wish there was something I could do. You and Hoop and your families will be in my thoughts.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Karen said...

No words...
So sorry...
We'll be here when you get back. In the meantime, know we are all sending good juju your way.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Allison said...

I have no idea what to say. :(

You have my numbers if you want to call me for anything... to cry, vent, chill, etc.

You and Hoop are in my thoughts.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Star said...

So sorry for your loss.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Alice said...

Peace. Vent when you need to.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Kell said...

I'm so sorry. We'll keep all of you in our thoughts and be sending you our love.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger meno said...

Oh that's just so awful. I'm so sorry.

I remember some of the posts i which you wrote about him. I could tell that you loved him.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger LL said...

We're in YOUR thoughts? Oh gosh Tinkie... don't worry about us.

You and yours are going to be in our thoughts for a long time sweets.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Dana said...

I am so sorry! Thoughts are with all of you in this difficult time.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Pamer said...

so sorry Tink...i loved hearing the funny stories involving the brothers

take careXO

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Maggie said...

Oh Tink, oh Tink. I'll be thinking about you and Hoop constantly. That is a great great loss.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Anonymous Kate said...

Tink I am so very sorry. Please know that my thoughts are with you, Hoop and his family.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Agent M said...

Heard from a mutual friend about Chris, wanted to come by and offer my sympathies. I'm so sorry.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Mouse said...

OMG I'm so sorry Tink! Thinking of you and Hoop during this time..

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Sunshine said...

I'm sorry to hear it, please give Hoop our best.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Mary said...

Oh sweetie. I am thinking about you guys. I'm very sorry to hear about this.

 
At 10 July, 2008, OpenID kcinnova said...

Oh, Tink!! My eyes are filled with tears upon reading this.
All y'all will be in our thoughts and prayers.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Kimmommy said...

That's heartbreaking news. I'm so sorry Tink. Prayers for your family.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger gary rith said...

Oh NO!

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger geenalyn said...

Oh Tink and Hoop I am so very sorry, there are just no words...you and your family will be in my thoughts...

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Chris said...

Nash?! Oh no! *BIG HUGS* to you and Hoop, sweetie.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Reb said...

Oh Tink, Hoop, I am so sorry to hear about your loss! You & your families are in my thoughts.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Spamboy said...

I barely know you and don't know Hoop at all, but when I read the news in my feed reader, it hit me hard. We had a loss in our family this week -- just a pet, not a person, but loss is on our mind. Our condolences to you and Hoop.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Karen said...

Oh my god. I am so sorry for you, Hoop and Hoop's family. I am at a loss for words. I will keep you in my prayers.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger Jen said...

May Nash rest in peace & God bless his soul.

I'm sorry, Tink & Hoop. May you find some calm in your time of great sadness.

 
At 10 July, 2008, Blogger the planet of janet said...

oh honey, i'm so sorry.

hugs and prayers sent your way.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Anonymous Moi said...

So very sorry for your loss, Tink & Hoop.

All my thoughts to you and yours ...

 
At 11 July, 2008, Anonymous ellie said...

there are no words that can even tell you how i feel for you im so sorry.
think of you
ellie
xxx

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger blue said...

prayers to you and yours...

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger captain corky said...

I'm so sorry Tink. My thoughts are with you guys.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Lu' said...

I'm very sorry for your loss. Kinda sucks the reason right out of your world doesn't it. I can imagine, having two siblings, but I don't want to. As the cliche says, it will get better with time, but will always hurt. Just tragic!

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Ne said...

My condolences! I am sorry, will keep The whole family in my prayers!

Ne

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Avitable said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Leighann said...

I'm here from Jay's place, wanted to offer more good thoughts and condolences.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Fortune Cookies said...

My thoughts are with you Tink, and with Hoop and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss!

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Scarlet said...

Jay passed us the link. My heart goes out to all of you. I'm so sorry this happened to such a young and wonderful guy.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Hilary said...

I'm so very sorry for you, Hoop and family. How tragic. You're in my thoughts, Tink dear.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger mamatulip said...

Oh, Tink, I am so incredibly sorry. I am absolutely speechless.

Hoop, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Know I'm thinking of you both, sending you strength.

xo

 
At 11 July, 2008, Anonymous Sunndog818 said...

My deepest sympathies to you, Hoop and your families.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Susan's 365 said...

Tink and Hoop...I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking about all of you.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Jenn said...

There are no words. I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Jenn

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Real Live Lesbian said...

My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. I'm just so sorry.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Farmer*swife said...

It never ceases to amaze me how a split second can change life for the rest of a lifetime.

It makes me fearful for all the things we can not control that are left to fate.

Words can't express such emotion. Peace, love and understanding.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger the Bag Lady said...

Tink and Hoop and family - my condolences to you on this tragic loss.
Sometimes things happen that seem to have no reasonable explanation. It's very sad.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger The Mountain Cat said...

Very tragic. I am so sorry for your lose.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Scarlet W. Blue said...

Tink, that's devastating. Please accept my condolences.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Anonymous catscratch diva said...

Bless you and your family. You're all in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Kimmie said...

Words cannot describe how sorry I am for your loss. I lost my brother suddenly 11 years ago and know the pain you and Hoop are feeling. Know that I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless,
Kimmie

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger friffy said...

long time reader.
i am so sorry for your and hoop's loss.
words cannot express.
stay strong.
there is still love in the world.
love you.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Tawcan said...

Very sorry to hear your loss. Please accept my condolences.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger gary rith said...

wish we could all come around and help out somehow

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Mamalujo said...

Four year old boy
Holds his uncle's hand and asks
What was Daddy like?

No, life isn't fair. Take care of that little guy and help him learn to deal with that fact. Please give Jeff and his family my condolences. Have a good cry. Take care of yourself.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger cndymkr / jean said...

I am so very sorry. I wish I could somehow make it better. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger g-man said...

Holy Cow! Coming from our own funeral I am in a special place to commiserate. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Hoop and his family.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger jeanne_bean said...

Oh Tink, I am so very sorry for your loss. Nash always sounded like a terrific guy. You, Hoop, Nash, and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Vanessa said...

I am so sorry. Sometimes life is just cruelly unfair.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Sparkling Red said...

My sympathies are with you and your family. May your heart be strong through this awful time.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Dianne said...

One moment at a time is all the helpful words I can come up with

there are no words

I will think of all of you

Peace

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger blewknight said...

Sorry for your and Hoop's loss! Best to you both.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger The Lone Beader said...

:(

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Big Momma Pimpalishisness said...

So, so sorry

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger fiwa said...

{{{TINK!}}} I'm so sorry, I just saw this post. I just wanted to offer my love and support to you and Hoop. I know how close you both were to Chris, and I'm so sorry this happened. It's heartbreaking for that poor little boy. I wish I could be there in person to cry with you and give you both hugs. Know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

love you -
fiwa

 
At 11 July, 2008, OpenID ordinaryjanet said...

I'm so sorry about this. Why does it always have to be the good people?

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Bizarro Aunt Jackie said...

Oh my God Tink!!! I'm so sorry to hear that... You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers!!!


R.I.P. Chris.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger rudecactus said...

I'm really and truly sorry guys. Really. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

 
At 11 July, 2008, Blogger Ted & Laura said...

So sad, just makes me sick to my stomach. You're in my thoughts.

~ Jumpsonbeds

 
At 11 July, 2008, Anonymous Michelle Patterson said...

Whenever I hear an ambulance or see an accident, I say a prayer, "God go before". I bet someone said it for Chris.

My sympathies to you and Hoop.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Matt-Man said...

I stopped by via Jay's blog. I am very sorry for your loss. I hope all affected find their peace soon. Cheers!!

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Alex said...

I am so sorry to hear this. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this very sad path.

You're right, sometimes it doesn't seem fair.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger mrspao said...

I'm so sorry to hear about Chris. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Hug x

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Orhan Kahn said...

There is far too much death around me at the moment. I do indeed wish you nothing but a healing period.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Terri said...

just back from vaca and was all geared up for my Tink fix, boy was this a terrible shock. I'm so sorry for you and Hoop and his family. Prayers and warm thoughts all for you.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger CrystalChick said...

Coming by way of Fiwa's place to say that I am very sorry for your family's loss. Wishing you all some comfort and love in the coming weeks and months.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Sis said...

I'm so sorry, Tink and Hoop.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Anonymous Raven said...

I am so sorry to hear this! Peace and comfort for you and yours, honey.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger HoosierGirl5 said...

My condolences.

J.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Golden To Silver Val said...

I am so very very sorry. My thoughts will be with you and yours.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Mo said...

There are no true words that can offer you comfort during this time.

I only hope you and yours are able to heal in time and find joy in the memories and love you shared.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger Ginni Dee said...

Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry. I'm just in tears here. Life is so unfair sometimes. You have my deepest sympathy and I'm praying for you, Hoops and your family.

Hugs

 
At 12 July, 2008, Blogger tt said...

Bad time to 'delurk'...but please accept my sympathies.
life is hard sometimes. hang in there.

 
At 12 July, 2008, Anonymous Emily said...

You guys sure have lots of love and thoughts coming your way from your readers. I'm just adding mine to the list. My deepest sympathy~~

 
At 12 July, 2008, OpenID nikkipolani said...

Tink, I came from Fiwa's and wanted to tell you how sorry I am hear about this sudden loss in your family. Such a young life cut short. Praying for the family.

 
At 13 July, 2008, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh my God, I just can't believe it. I am so, so sorry to hear about your and Hoop's loss. Nash will always live on in your hearts.

Like a bird
Singing in the rain,
Let grateful memories
Survive in time of sorrow.
—Robert Louis Stevenson

 
At 13 July, 2008, Blogger Krishna said...

I'm terribly sorry for you and your family's loss. Such a tragedy. I hope you and the family can find some peace in all these kind words from your internet friends.

 
At 13 July, 2008, Blogger Alli said...

Oh Tink! I am so sorry for you, Hoop, and family. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

 
At 13 July, 2008, Blogger womaninawindow said...

Holy. Crap.
I'm sorry...
I'm so sorry...

 
At 13 July, 2008, Blogger ETK said...

Oh Tink. I'm so very sorry. How horrible. You and Hoop are both in my thoughts.

 
At 13 July, 2008, Blogger Cazzie!!! said...

I am thinking of you all at this time, please feel the warmth of my hugg around your family from across the ocean from Down Under.

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger TheBirdman33 said...

I am so sorry. That is tragic news and I will be thinking about you guys.

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger Chatty said...

Oh, Hoop. Oh, Tink.
Words cannot begin to describe the feelings I have right now, having just learned of your loss. One part of me understands that I have never even met you in "real life", but another part realizes how important you have become to me through Tink's blog - and how because of it, I feel that I know you a little.
I will pray for you, and for all the other family members and friends who are grieving the loss of Nash.
I don't know why Horatio's farewell to Hamlet flashed into my mind, but I leave it here for what it is worth:
"Now cracks a noble heart. Good night, sweet prince,
And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest!"
- Horatio
(V.ii.370-371)

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger LMPP said...

You never believe things like this would happen to you and when these things happen a piece of you dies too. I can't imagine the grief you both are going through.

Heartfelt condolences to you, Hoop & his family. I will light a candle for Nash tonight.
xx

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger Janet said...

Oh, Tink, I'm so sorry to hear about Nash. It's not fair, not fair at all. Please know that I'm thinking of you and Hoop and his family. SO sad.

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger Chelle Y. said...

I am so sorry I am getting back so late to respond to this. I have not been reading the blogs lately.

You, Hoop, and the entire family is in my thoughts and prayers.

You're right, it's not fair.

 
At 14 July, 2008, Anonymous Turle said...

The ones we love remain with us, so think of him often. He'll live on forever in your heart.

Foo & I both send you & Hoop our thoughts & prayers. We shall miss him and all the stories. Take care, dear Tink. hug

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger Saffa Chick said...

I am so sorry for your loss. That's just awful.

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger Tara said...

Sorry just doesn't seem like enough but there really isn't anything to say that would be. My brother was 27 when he was killed in a car accident - 6 years ago. Please let Hoop know that while the pain never goes away, it will get easier to breathe again, little by little, day by day.

Don't forget to take care of that sweet little boy who will need you all now more than ever.

 
At 14 July, 2008, Blogger Eileen said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. It is so very sad and makes no sense. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.

 
At 15 July, 2008, Blogger Lauren said...

My thoughts and prayers are being sent your way.

 
At 15 July, 2008, Blogger Ambitious Blonde said...

As usual, I'm late on this but I'm so very sorry to hear about Nash. You, Hoop and the rest of the fam are in my thoughts.

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Mona Buonanotte said...

So sorry Tink. Sending good juju your way.

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Julie said...

I'm so sorry, I don't even know you or your family and my heart is breaking for you, that is so very tragic. I know you are probably sick of hearing sorry but what else is one to say? You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Tory said...

There are no words, Tink that will help at this time, but my prayers and thoughts are with you and Hoop.
May God grant you peace and healing while you go through this.
Hugs
Tory

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Knight said...

Hey Tink, I was just thinking about you and hoping you are doing okay.

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

This is so sad. My condolences to you and your family.

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Aunt Jackie said...

Missing You Miss Tink! I commented above as Bizarro AJ, but I was just thinking of you guys too.

 
At 16 July, 2008, Blogger Tequila Mockingbird said...

i'm so sorry for your loss!

*hugs*

 
At 17 July, 2008, Blogger Peggy said...

I just got back to read this news! I am so sorry for you, Hoop and Nash's little guy! It isn't fair is it?

Hang in there!

Love

Peg

 
At 17 July, 2008, Blogger DebbieDoesLife said...

I am so sorry. I don't know what else to say but please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 17 July, 2008, Blogger womaninawindow said...

Dropped by again just to say I'm thinking about you guys...
erin

 
At 17 July, 2008, Anonymous ExtraordinaryMommy said...

Prayers for you and your family. So very sorry to hear about your loss.

 
At 21 July, 2008, Blogger bichonpawz said...

So very sorry to hear of your loss...your family will be in my prayers.

 
At 08 September, 2008, Blogger Freakazojd said...

I am so sorry that I missed this - so sorry that I haven't checked in as much as I've thought about you this summer. More than anything I am so sad to hear about Nash. I can't believe it.
Sending love, late, but heartfelt.

 

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