Thursday, January 18, 2007

Open Floor

It's days like today that make you wonder...

Am I blue because it's raining? Or is it raining because I'm blue?

The Scuba Ring: Had I known my dream from yesterday would provoke such interesting conversations and advice, I might have brought the topic up sooner. To clarify, I'm not worried about when Hoop will pop the question. I'm perfectly happy with my life (and the people in it) just the way it is. There's no sense to hurry. Especially when the process of getting there is so enjoyable!

My worry is that Hoop hasn't thought about it. It would break my heart MORE to know that I'm not worth the consideration, than to plan for it and never have it happen. I know a woman whose parents have been together for over thirty years. They've had kids together. They've bought a house together. But they've never been married. The reason? "It just never came up."

I don't want to be one of those couples. Perhaps there's a small part of me that's panicked because I'm investing in a house that's built for two. I'm making a huge leap of faith with absolutely no guarantee behind it. But that's life, right? If it were easy it would come with a handbook. So there's my two cents. Feel free to donate your own and tell me what's on your mind.

The floor is open to all things taboo.

(Religion. Politics. Vibrators. Give me something good.)

January Search Terms:
(What people put into search engines that bring them here)
1. cat sick puke repeat clean puke rinse repeat
2. historical paintings of twins pinching nipple Ah, historical. So that's how you get around the filters at school!
3. i had a peeing attendants in the car
Hitting that bottle IS pretty tricky.
4. the Sims 2 vibrators To activate it do you double-click the mouse? ;)

Daily Hoop Conversation:
Hoop: My ankle hurts.
Tink: Did you just say "cankle?"
Hoop: No! I have small ankles.
Mom: Did you just say you have a small "tinkle?"
Hoop: *Blush* Oh my God.
Mom: That's not something I would advertise honey.

Not Far From The Tree:
(While sitting outside)
Tink: *Puts sweater over knees* I wish I had boobs this big!
Mom: Ew, no.
Tink: Why not?
Mom: The weight would make you walk like this- *hunches over*.
Hoop: You wouldn't be able to see your feet.
Mom: And when you got older they'd sag so much you'd have to tuck them into your socks!
Hoop: You'd turn too quickly and end up doing circles trying to stop.
Mom: You wouldn't be able to-
Tink: -OK, ok! I get it.
Hoop: Aw. I was just getting started.

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At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Pamer said...

Sweetheart, it's raining because your sad!

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger mamalujo1 said...


Why don't you ask him to marry you?

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Jay said...

I've never really even gotten close to marriage. So, I'm not much of an expert.

But, I would think that Hoop probably knows that there isn't anybody else like you out there.

Uh .. that was a compliment. :-)

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger The Moody Chick said...

Ah yes, I am one of those couples :) First we were too young. Then too restless and I set off travelling. Once reunited, we were both too broke. Once we got money we could either get married or buy the house. We bought the house. Then we were broke once again so we got a dog. Money came again so we bought things and a wedding seemed silly after all this time and anyways we had a toaster and wine glasses and a fondue pot... We had declared our love and commitment to each other if not in front of friends and family. We appeased the family by having a baby. Now nobody annoyingly asks us when we're getting married. No, now they ask when the next baby is coming! All that in 12 years...

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Mignon said...

I bought a house with my now-husband. Actually two. I mean, houses. It felt like we both understood the marriage would come when everything was set. House? Check. Jobs we like? Check. Enormous boob job and penile implant? Check....

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Gracey said...

I would definitely be thinking the same way if I were you, Tink. I sure hope he has thought about it too. You guys are in such a committed relationship now, why don't you guys marry? Do you think he's scared of the "M" word? I think you should bring it up and tell him how you are feeling. Maybe you two want two completely different things and it would be better to figure it out before too long.

Mamalujo has a could ask him to marry you! :) Don't be too blue...communication is number one in a relationship....let him know what you are thinking.

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Tink said...

Pamer: *Sniff* Thank you. That's what I thought.

Mamalujo: Great. So I can have the same reaction I got when I asked him to move in... "Um. No thanks." I just sat there staring at my shrimp for a minute before answering, "Then get your damn toothbrush out of my bathroom." ;)

Jay: There will be one day. I totally plan on being cloned. Think of all the cleaning I could get done!

The Moody Chick: I'm sorry if I made your situation sound negative. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. When I'm blue I tend to view life like a... preteen who just got her love note back with a little X over the "NO" box.

Mignon: Penile implant eh? Maybe I should start sending all those googlers looking for "Saggy Scrotum Surgery" your way. ;)

Gracey: My hope is that moving into our own place will open up the communication again. It's hard to talk personal with the rest of the family hovering. ;)

Everyone: What? No biters on the taboo topics?

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Mike Y said...

Hmm... such an open invitation ;)

Personally, I think you should just continue as you are and stay with the families. Think about it... if you ever have kids you won't have to go far for a baby sitter. And sharing food is easier too. ;)

Coors and Bud stink! Go Samuel Adams!

I'm trying think of anything controversial. How am I doing?

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Tink said...

Mike Y: I think you're on to something with the built in babysitter! Bud and Coors DO stink. Drink more RUM! It was a decent shot, Mike.

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger meno said...

My vibrator batteries ran out. I need new ones.

How's that?

I like it that you control the weather, if you are frigid does it snow? If so, STOP IT!

At 18 January, 2007, Anonymous mamatulip said...

My father knows a couple who has never married. When I was younger I never understood seemed so weird to me.

I'm married now, almost five years. And good god do I ever understand it now. LMAO.

I'm kidding. Sort of. ;)

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger spellconjurer said...

don't do it! Don't lose your leverage just yet, your freedom to say "You MADE ME MAD, now GET OUT", without having to call a lawyer! He won't be entitled to half your anything! You can be the basis for a bad movie like "The Break Up",,,,you can keep a catalog of cute and interesting men on hand just in case things with Hoop don't pan out. You can do a "Shoop Shoop Shoop" song and dance if you ever need to kick out Hoop Hoop Hoop. You can see sparking lights in the dark on the beach alone, and know he's feeding potential nose beans/candy to some other chicks unsuspecting little brother.

See? That all sounds just awful doesn't it? Tink,,,,,as much as any two people in the world could seem, you two seem destined to spend your lives together and HAPPILY. I can't imagine for a second Hoop wants to lose you. I want you to be Jewish, so we can carry you two around in chairs while dancing and looking up the skirt of your wedding dress (snoooooooooort). I'm so going to re-enact Wedding Crashers when you two tie the knot of love. Hoop is smart girl. He picked you. He won't lose you. I have the ultimate faith in him. Anyhow, mamalujo will kick his ass if he doesn't,,,,,,,he he he.

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Sunshine said...

You knees in your shirt story reminds me of when my mother had our minister come over to our house (for spiritual guidance I guess) and I put two balloons in my shirt and came running out into the living room.
My mother was mortified.
I think I was maybe 8-years old at the time.
His response was "don't you wish".
But, yeah, the balloons I picked would have made me hunch over if they'd been real boobs. Made me think of that. Thanks for the trip down memory lane.

Oh, and unless you are really wanting him to do the proposing, you do it sometime. But, he'll probably do it before you get tired of waiting for him to do it. Maybe he's waiting for a specific exciting event to do it at.

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Tink said...

Meno: Why don't they make vibrators like cell phones? Then you could just plug them into the wall at night to recharge.... I'm sorry for the snow. But I only control the rain and the rainbows.

Mama T: I'll ask you if you feel the same tomorrow. ;)

Spellconjurer: (((HUG))) Bless you girl. That was such a great comment!

Sunshine: I think big boobs are like that grass quote, "It's always bigger, I mean greener on the other side." Or whatever. That sounded better in my head.

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger The Moody Chick said...

Don't worry Tink! Never thought you made it sound negative, just giving my perspective. Totally depends on the people and I would have been just as happy had we got married I'm sure! As far as I can tell the only down side, in our case, of not getting married is having seen my Grandpa drunk and dancing, uncles cat-fighting (they're kinda girlie), and the reactions of my family when his family brought a pig roast to the reception!! Ah, maybe one day we'll just have to do it :)

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Chris said...

My mind is totally blank. Damn cold. *blink blink*

At 18 January, 2007, Blogger Newt said...

Well, I'll share the fact that it wasn't until AFTER our guests left our house that I noticed our vibrator was on the back of the toilet. And yes, they used the restroom while they were here. Sigh...........

And I was banging my head against the wall trying to remember what movie pamer was quoting. In midconversation with a co-worker I suddenly snapped my fingers and yelled out MIB. It was not one of my better career advancement moments.

At 19 January, 2007, Blogger EE said...

I'm *SURE* he's thought about it. Buying house is a huge deal.

I always freaking love your convos, lol.

At 19 January, 2007, Anonymous wordgirl said...

I know where you're coming from, kiddo. I really do. It's the desire worthiness that creates self-doubt. Maybe he's feeling it, too. You're both so great that I know it will all work out.

At 19 January, 2007, Blogger DebbieDoesLife said...

The word cankles is one of my favs. My oldest has never forgiven me though for telling him he had them. He doesn't anymore but there was a day -

Now I have to read your previous post to see if you are dying to get married or what is this about a ring???

At 21 January, 2007, Blogger Barb T. said...

Honey, I've been a DD since junior high; trust me, you don't want this! My 34B girlfriends once gave me a book called "Having Big Boobs Is..." and the entries were things like .."excavating before you can lie on your stomach at the beach" and "...being able to eat crackers in bed." (well, that last one isn't so bad). If they ever figure out how to do a boob transplant, email me, I'll be your donor.

As far as the marriage thing, my sweetie took 10 years to pop the question, so there is hope. The best thing is, when you say yes, you know exactly what you are getting, right? I'm new to reading your blog so I don't know how long you have been together, but I would guess there are no surprises by now. As long as you wish to avoid giving him the opportunity to say "no, thanks" your alternative is to wait for it to be his idea. What you have to decide is if he is worth waiting for.

At 26 January, 2007, Blogger mrspao said...

A house for two is a big step. We're just about to do that and it is a new and scary experience (pao moved into my house)


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