Monday, October 08, 2007

Celebrating Two Years Of Livin' In Sin

Today is Hoop and my two year anniversary.

Throughout the day yesterday, Hoop kept turning to me and saying, "Two years, babe! Can you believe that?" I can't. No matter how many times he asked, I couldn't wrap my brain around that fact. My life was so very different two years ago. I was meeting him at Carrabba's. I didn't know any of you yet. I was eight pounds skinnier and didn't have as many laugh lines on my face. I was anxious. For months we'd been staring across rooms at each other. I knew he was the one. I was worried I would screw something up before he could realize it.

When he arrived, I went to hug him. He hesitated. He'd expected me to be more aloof. We talked all through dinner, neither eating very much. He was so nervous when the bill came that he couldn't figure out the tip. Then we went to the bookstore for coffee. We spent the next several hours on the curb, drinking, smoking, and sharing as much as we could. High off the momentum of the date, our stories got ballsy. He told me about farting in front of his ex's father. I told him about my Mom's plan to get me knocked up in Greece if I was still single by 25.

Reluctantly, we parted ways. "Let's leave while it's still a perfect date," Hoop said. I'll never forget that. He called me the next day. We saw each other every weekend for a month, and every day on the following. It was in December when I asked him to move in. We were eating shrimp in the cold. He'd already been sleeping over most nights, so I didn't think my question too bold. Hoop paused over his meal. "I'll think about it," he said. He thought about it for over a month before deciding to take the leap out of bachelorhood.

Five months after Hoop moved in, we decided to put the house on the market. Ok, ok, I decided to put the house on the market. Apparently, it's on that spot in the timeline that I lost my mind. Bless Hoop's heart, he didn't hesitate this time. From that moment on our lives were a whirlwind. I'd pulled the bottom out of the Jenga pile and we were doing everything possible to keep it from falling. On the days I felt like crying, he made me laugh. I'd scream and he'd scream back. He'd give up and I'd continue plowing through. Eventually, we found the other side.

To the man who who makes me snort, gives me goosebumps, and holds the other half of my world... I love you Hoop!

Tink's Livin' In Sin Anniversary Gift Guide:

1st year: PAPER
Marriage Certificate (Would be nice)

2nd year: COTTON
Nightie (Isn't puppy love grand?)

3rd year: LEATHER
Whip (Keeping it fresh)

4th year: FRUIT
Apples (Props to Eve)

5th year: WOOD
His (If he's lucky)

6th year: IRON
Chasity Belt (He STILL hasn't proposed?!)

7th year: WOOL
Sweater (What you knit for him between barefoot pregnancies)

8th year: BRONZE
Gong (For those mornings he really pisses you off)

9th year: POTTERY
Mug (Probably made in therapy)

10th year: ALUMINUM
6 pack of Bud (For you, not him)

Anyone have any advice for Hoop and I for the future?



At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Chelle Y. said...

Happy Anniversary, Tink and Hoop!

I hope I find love again, the kind you and Hoop have together!

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger fiwa said...

Consider the other person's feelings every time you open your mouth to speak. Don't take each other for granted, and there's no such thing as too much praise.

Happy 2 year anniversary! Hope you guys do something special for yourselves.


At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Jay said...

Happy Anniversary you crazy kids!

I have no good advice to give. I'm adviceless at this time. LOL

Okay, here's some good advice for Hoop. In almost every situation stop and think "What would Jay do here?" and then do the opposite cause I always make bad decisions. hahaha

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Jess Riley said...

happy anniversary to one of my favorite couples!! You guys are so damn cute together.

And that L.I.S. anniversary gift guide...hysterical.

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Tink said...

Word to bible thumpers:

I realize that by using the words "living in sin" in my post title, you might have misconstrued this to mean that I need to be "saved" or given a sermon on the blessings of Jesus. I DONT. So please, if you plan on preaching I will continue deleting. Thanks!

The chick who plans on doing sinful things to her boyfriend tonight. ;P

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Tink said...

Chelle: You will! I have no doubt. ((HUG))

Fiwa: Good advice! I especially like the praise part. Thank you! :)

Jay: Aw, Jay. That's not true.

Jess: Thank you!

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Pamer said...

hee hee...i think the gift for year 5 should apply to all maybe the year 10 gift as a matter of fact add a little year 3 to the mix as well...just a little ( that shit hurts)

That'd be a pretty fun, but pretty redneck anniversary every year HA

Congrats you guys

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Foo said...

I've onlygot a minute (I'm on my Palm, in a class) but I just wanted to say congrats and many more!

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger graymama said...


Advice that I haven't already given? Listen to Talk to Her--India.Arie Change genders and it applies to how you should talk to him

Have a fabulous night :-D Don't do anything I wouldn't do, which pretty much means try it all, damnit! teehee

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Newt said...

Happy Anniversary!

Just say I love you every day. Never leave for work with out saying it. And give each other a kiss and a hug.

We have always done this because I want to know, should one of us not make it home, that the last thing we did was say I love you.

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Peggy said...

Dang! Doesn't time fly!

Happy Anniversary you two!!!

At 08 October, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good for you!! Looking to still be around for two more!

Never try to change a soul. And remember men, I mean no one,is ever perfect.

At 08 October, 2007, Anonymous susan said...

Advise...naw you guys are figuring it out fine on your own.

Happy Anniversary!

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger meno said...

I lived in sin for 2.5 years before getting married.

Your time is short....

No advice, just keep on being funny and nice to one another.

At 08 October, 2007, Anonymous TB said...

Keep on doin' what you're doin'.

Happy Anniversary.

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Jen said...

Here's wishing you & Hoop many, many more!

In the words of Bill & Ted, "be nice to one another."

And don't forget that when you go out into the world remember to hold each others hand.

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Betty said...

tink: Congratulations to both of you. I guess my advice would be never go to sleep mad at each other.

At 08 October, 2007, Anonymous Michelle said...

Congrats! I don't have any advice, though, I think if would be great if Hoop stopped smoking too. ;o) Now THAT'S a show of support!

At 08 October, 2007, Anonymous Snookie said...

Happy anniversary!!!

No advice from me... you two seem perfect the way you are!

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger Hilary said...

Very sigh-evoking... sigh!

Congrats :)

At 08 October, 2007, Blogger janet said...

i would offer advice but it sounds like you really dont need any. just keep loving each other and the rest will follow.

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger ALLISON said...

Advice to Hoop: Don't eat her damn garlic knots or expect an ass whooping.

Advice to Tink: Keep having sex and he'll be happy.

Advice to you both: That line of "Don't ever go to bed angry," is total bullshit. I'm irrational when I'm angry. Sometimes I NEED to sleep on it. Guaranteed that 9 times out of 10, you'll wake up in the morning and forget what you were arguing about the night before.

(Oh, and true love doesn't need advice, so ignore all of the above.)


At 09 October, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...


That is a very sweet story, so different from any story I've ever had.

Good luck with many more years of sinin!

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger coffespaz said...

Happy Anniversary!! Isn't it wonderful to find that person who holds the other half of your world??

Advice- Hmmm....I think the best advice we ever took was to never go to bed mad. In nine years, we've only done it once...and it was a LONG night!

Cheers and a toast to many more years of bliss to come! :-)

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger Christy said...

Aw yay Happy Anniversary!

Bri and I get married on November 10th! We've been best friends for five years and have been living together for a little over a month now.

Step One: The paper license...hmm..when do we need to get that!?

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger Nettie said...

Happy Anniversary. It's so cool that after two years you can still expierence those feelings. Communicate, be kind to each other, make love even when you don't feel like it, hold hands, fight, make up and once again, be kind to each other. Words hurt more than anything.

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger mrspao said...


(PS I could imagine you both having an Elvis wedding for some reason...)

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger Aunt Jackie said...

Wow! Sounds like you guys are off to a good start. As for me, I lived in sin for about 1 year before Mr. J and I took the official plunge... so I guess we went with the Marriage certificate (paper) approach.

Advice?? Hmmm, well always keeping a youthful frame of mind: Never grow up-and don't be afraid to have fun together no matter your age.

Also, we all have fights, but I don't like to let an anger harbor.

Jealousy is a hard one for me, but I guess each of us needs our time away, whether it's an hour or two, etc...

Laugh alot. Laugh at yourselves, laugh with each other at other's expenses... whatever gets you giggling.

Honesty... speaks for itself.

Love this post!! Great tribute to your two years... Best Wishes from your Aunt Jackie. :)

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger Spamboy said...

My only advice is to never take one another for granted. When your love calls your cell phone, always pick it up. When you're having a bad day, don't hide it. Do what you've been doing, and you'll make everyone around you sick. :)

Oh, and get married in Vegas. The best way to go.

At 09 October, 2007, Blogger mjd said...

Happy Anniversary, I don't think that you need advice. You and Hoop seem to be very much in love.

At 10 October, 2007, Blogger Freakazojd said...

Happy anniversary!
And what a great post - I didn't know 5 years was wood (very funny, btw). The hubs and I had our 5th wedding anniversary this year. Wood. Y. Hee hee.
Anyway, in terms of advice, the first thing that comes to mind is always always always communicate - even when it's hard or you don't feel like it, or you think the other person "should know", or even if you've already said it "5 million times" - communicate. The other thing that pops immediately into mind is humour. I think you've got both covered from the sounds of it. Here's to many more wonderful years! Clinkety clink! :)

At 10 October, 2007, Blogger Macoosh said...

happy aniversary....what a great love story you two have.

cherish it. that's my advice.

At 10 October, 2007, Blogger CRUSTYBEEF said...

Happy Anniversary to you guys!
And, advice? Always listen to yourselves before listening to sound like you've mastered the entire book of Men are From Mars and Woman are From Venus in just 2 guys will be the 50years together couple, the writings on the wall, so to speak.


At 10 October, 2007, Blogger Kerith Collins said...

i love the gifts...we are LIS (livin in sin) for about 7 1/2 years must be working...we have 4 kids...advice...laugh alot and make up alot!

At 10 October, 2007, Blogger Scarlet Witch said...

That's so sweet, Tink.

At 10 October, 2007, Blogger rudecactus said...

Congrats! Your two year is a day before our bronze anniversary. I knew I should have picked up a gong!

At 10 October, 2007, Blogger Mignon said...

I love your first date. It sounds like it was wonderful and exciting. The possiblities... are here, I guess?

My advice (which I should write down somewhere, because I only remember it much too late) is when you're arguing, you need to treat your partner as if you've just met. Being disrepectful sucks and doesn't make him understand. Not that he will half the time, but calling him an insensitive asshole makes him take his eye off the ball.

And on the flip side, bjs are the spice of life/marriage/happy days. (I only write that because this post is a couple days old and probably nobody is reading this far into my long-winded comment anyway. But it's true. BJs.)

At 14 October, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well Tink, this was interesting. A cute little post. um but you didn't take it far enough. You failed to tell me what is for the 18th year of livin in sin, cause Cletus and I will be there next month..There are days,,I'm thinkin lead...

ha ha ha ain't luv grand...


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